In the media being mean is oftentimes portrayed as harmless or even cool. The popular kids in high school are portrayed as attractive well-dressed cheerleaders and jocks with a superiority complex. Being a 90’s kid I’m going to reference the movie “Mean Girls” one of the most quoted lines in the movie is “You can’t sit with us.” This line embodies the mentality of creating exclusivity by excluding people who aren’t deemed “cool”. As much as I enjoyed these movies as a teen it didn’t represent real life to me. I spent a lot of my childhood moving around and I always managed to make new friends by being friendly and well, nice.
As an adult I have encountered grown-up bullies still stuck on the hypothetical playground stealing lunches. They rely on malicious gossiping, rude comments, dirty looks and last but not least the mean girls favorite intimidation tactic rolling in a crew. In real life mean girls aren’t cool they’re deeply insecure individuals who need others to validate them and ironically seek to intimidate those they are intimidated by.
It’s not cute to go around with RBF (Resting, Bitch, Face) and a “no new friends” mentality. It’s cool to be the person who strikes up conversation with the new girl at the office. It’s cool to be an individual who doesn’t rely on your posse like a security blanket. After all most of us graduated high school a while ago.